Deciding who should have what responsibilities in a custody agreement is rarely an easy decision. Questions such as "Should he live with the primary caretaker?" or "Who is responsible for health insurance?" can arise, possibly signaling the beginning of a battle for child custody. While simply wanting as much time with a child is quite understandable, staying calm during these negotiations can be one of the most beneficial actions that may be in the best interest of the child.
Utilizing a professional and experienced mediator in Oregon can be key to quelling any fears associated with a custody battle. As an impartial third party, a mediator can focus on the facts rather than the emotion of the case. While their suggestion certainly isn't binding, it may be an excellent resolution that both parties find agreeable.
In the situation that one or neither party likes the suggestion provided by the mediator, the dispute may simply drag out. Instead of rushing straight through to litigation, patience may be key. Many parents who are able to demonstrate the willingness to take this issue at a slower, more responsible pace for the benefit of their child may appear more dedicated to the well being of a child.
For Oregon parents, few if any issues rise above child custody during a divorce. If parents cannot work together to determine an acceptable agreement, a mediator is a wonderful second choice. Mediation is often used to focus on several different issues during a divorce, and mediators can provide insight that may be difficult for others to see. If both of these options fail, litigation is the next option. As this puts the final custody decision in the hands of a judge, parents may be well advised to proceed at a reasonable pace while still maintaining dedication to their child.
Source: The Huffington Post, "4 Ways to Fight Your Fears During a Custody Battle", Jessica Woodbury, Oct. 27, 2014